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FALLING IN LOVE AND LOVING
This 150 -page book, published in 1979, has excited great interest all over the world. In Italy alone
it has gone through 45 editions and sold over a million copies. Its success depends on the fact of its being
the first study on falling in love since Stendhal's famous De l'amour of 1832. For Alberoni falling in
love is of the same nature as religious or political conversion.
We fall in love when our attempts to save previous relationships have
failed, and we are ready to change. At this point a rapid destructuring-restructuring
process takes place within us, called nascent state. The previous relationship disintegrates and we rebuild
our lives and futures around the loved person. In the nascent state the individual acquires the ability to fuse
with someone else and create a new, highly supportive collectivity. Hence the famous definition: falling in
love is the nascent state of a collective movement made up of just two persons.